hi bob
welcome to the forum! 
it sounds like you have given this considerable thought and it's a good time to fix it. ya don't want to be an old man and still twiddling your fingers.
i think a therapist would be a great idea to help you pinpoint what has triggered this shy behavior with women you're attracted to. the therapist doesn't make an issue with info that we reveal ....that's why they are there; to help us see what we need to see and solutions to the behavior that's holding us back.
you might try meeting gals in a group setting (guys and gals) so you don't feel so subconscious. it takes the focus off of you.
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