Women in porn are NOT forced into it, it is NOT exploitation and it is NOT degrading to women (I'm a feminist btw). So what if they were abused as children/teenagers? They're adult women, they can make decisions for themselves without us pointing fingers and saying "oh drrr she's only doing that because she was abused". It reminds me of that actor in Baise Moi who killed herself five years after the release of the movie, because the entire world was judging and pitying her - but the radical feminists, of course, say "she killed herself because of the abuse", despite that she had previously told a friend that she would never do that because she wouldn't let the predator win.
Plus, there are a lot of females who direct porn movies as well as OWN production companies; and they started out as actresses, working their way up the ladder. I suppose they're CEOs in multimilliondollar companies because they were abused as children.

"Even using porn as a stimulus for marital sex is problematic because porn rarely reflects healthy modes of connection. Porn is wham, bam, thank you, ma'am--at best--and not reflective of the kind of sex I really want in my own life."

Well he's completely missed the point of porn then. It's not supposed to be about intimacy, romance, chemistry, connection and all that jazz - it's about ****ing. End of story. Amateur porn, however, is much more intimate and that stuff - but obviously he didn't do his research.

If you use porn in an unhealthy way, similar to using alcohol in an unhealthy way, yeah - it's going to be bad for you and your relationship. But as long as you use it in a healthy way, it can be very good for your relationship and yourself.

We're individuals; no one is the same, no one reacts the same. If someone becomes addicted; that's their problem, not my problem. If someone is traumatized by porn because of abuse; that's their problem, not my problem (and I'm also a victim of abuse).
My boyfriend suggested to me that I have the kinks that I have because of the abuse and that I'm punishing myself. I almost laughed my pants off.

You never know how it's going to affect you or your relationship until you try. And for the women whose partners watch porn, I suggest they do some research, keep an open mind, and also venture into the world of online porn to see what it's like. I've seen some pretty darn cute and romantic amateur movies, if women would start out with that instead of gonzo, they might adopt a realistic and healthy view on porn.

PS. Yes I'm extremely pro-porn, and saddened by how so many women cling to radical feministic myths and refuse to even give it a try, and worse; allow it to create problems in a relationship.