Yeah I havent gone to the point of "spying" I wouldnt say. Im a delivery driver so sometimes I take deliveries to his neighborhood and every time I drive past his house Im like "no car in the driveway...." lol (he doesnt have a car so if there was a car there is when I would get worried). But Ive never snooped through his phone or anything like that. Now hes getting really mad at himself because he knows he cant get upset when I ask him "you promise you werent really with her?" but it aggravates him because he really wasnt.

Oh and then yesterday she texted him about her current boyfriend and how hes distancing himself from her. and i was like "well obviously she WANTS you to know theyre on the rocks" so he texted her back that he didnt want to hear about it, showed it to me and everything lol

But I agree that I would much rather hear the truth and be hurt. Because if I get hurt from the truth it takes me about 1/3 as long to get over the hurt as it does to get over the hurt of being lied to by a loved one.

Im sure the trust will also get better with time. You might just need to see several times that your thoughts were irrational before it sinks in that hes not doing anything y'know?