i'm sorry that this has happened to you, luvtiels...i was thinking last night that there are forums that i don't go into because i don't know anything about that particular subject. my thinking has been that i would feel awkward because i don't have experience that relates to ,say, "personality disorders"....your post has made me aware that there are perhaps tons of posters that i've never seen their writings....i.e. their feelings...i generally flit from one forum to another, the ones that i feel comfortable interacting in. i see, by your post, that i should go into the other forums because i can always offer an ear and support. i apologize to you and i'm really glad that you posted in this thread. xoxox pat