thanks Lenny and muffy for taking time to write to me and think about this with me, im dealing with several situations of co-dependence and ill health (too many)

im trying very hard not to lose patience with others but it is very challenging when i can see clearly what is needed to be done, but even tho it would help them self, my friends and family are still doing things the old ways for themselves and apparently dont realize how it affects others around them..

my mom is kind of a good example too... her health is getting so bad that i am afraid to think of her in 10 years from now, even one more day as she is is terrible by anyones standards and what makes it harder is how it is always those who care who get dragged down with them... and they claim to love us but is this the way to show it? by making us hurt with them? when they could help themselves a lot and others by just following common sense good health tips.. simple stuff, like rest and eat and being kind to self and not choosing helplessness as a way of life... sorry, i just get so upset about this sometimes