My T put it this way for me... Im "moving up" the ladder of guys. My first boyfriends were jerks who lied, cheated and abused me. Then I dated a guy who didn't do those but was still wrong for me. Then I was in a long relationship with a guy who basically kissed the ground I walked on but we werent right for each other either. So the way he puts it is... I need to date semi-good guys for me to see that not all men are jerk pigs and eventually I will find a good man who is actually right for me.

And I think the going for the bad boy thing has a lot to do with wanting security. Even though Im a self-proclaimed feminist and do everything on my own, its still nice to have that feeling of security. Like if Im ever in a bind I know my man is strong enough in multiple ways to help me out. And I think that when we see the "bad boys" we feel like they can protect us physically. And, as women, we associate a lot of physical feelings with menta and emotional feelings. So its no suprise that those types of men attract us. We might say we want a sensitive man but it does get kind of annoying after a while when you feel like your guy i more sensitive than you. Not to mention, most of us have been raised to view those bad boys as the type you want.

Bottom line, we shouldnt have to settle. I want a (what I call) tweener. A guy who can drink and have a good time but not be an alcoholic. Stand up for me but not try to pick fights with every guy who looks at me. Make me laugh but also listen to me when I need to talk or cry. Protect me but also let me do things on my own. Sounds like a lot to ask doesnt it? lol