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silver_moon · Nov 22, 2008, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by 1confused

i know i need to move on from my past relationship but i keep holding on and constantly thinking about her / everything we had and everything i thought we would have in the future. 6 weeks ago she wanted to marry me and now we dont even talk. i have to try and try not to call her text her contact her in any way because i know she wont respond and that will just hurt me more. i never thought this would happen. she was my best friend and i thought i was hers. i know i have to let go but theres part of me that would rather hold on to the feelings i have for and be miserable. i dont want to go back to who i was before i met her. i was very closed off just had fun and never really got to close to women. i had relationships but i never let anyone get to close. so im afraid if i try to close her out im going to close that door again and never really have a happy relationship,wich is truly what i want. am i just not ready to let go? i feel like i need to for my own mental health but just cant seem to. i know theres no magic answer

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I'm going through the same thing right now and can appreciate your pain.

All I can really say is that at some point your head will tell you "I need to move on, I need to realise that I can't be with her anymore" because if you don't you'll never be happy... you'll question yourself why all the time, you'll compare others to her, you'll torture yourself hunny.
So easy to write, but very hard to do... I know, I'm struggling too. I'm getting some great support here and I'd be a complete wreck without it... you are grieving hun, for a girlfriend and a best friend.
Please be good to yourself. Treat yourself, think of you. I wish I could take your pain away, but I can't. I can offer you the warmest of hugs though, a shoulder to lean on and a listening ear (or rather a reading eye

).

Take care confused,
Molly