Neither me or my exH had to go to the courthouse. After we each individually signed the divorce papers they were filed with a judge who signed them without either of us having to be there. I was glad I didn't have to go, but I think all of you have a good point about closure. I remember my L calling me at work to tell me the judge had signed off on our divorce and it was official. I didn't know what to do and wasn't really close enough to anyone at work to have a conversation about it. I think it would have been nice to have some sort of formality to it.

It does seem strange that only one of the parties has to go. I would think the requirement would be both if the point is to make sure the divorce documents are understood. Oh well, lots of things aren't logical I guess.

Good luck sunny, it will be a way to mark the new year.