Hi iamtwilight,

I am glad that you are getting help - about the anger thing - I got told recently that anger is a way of keeping in control - sounds screwy, but it makes some sense to me - if I'm angry I can keep people at a distance and while im angry I am in control - in an out of control sort of way - It also stops people from getting clsoe to me when I feel that I have let them in too much (which is not very much!) - If I feel Im getting angry i take myself away from others and try to reason it out - either by writing it down - or doing relaxation stuff like breathing techniques - dont' know if this makes sense - hope things get better for you and your partner - admitting you have a problem is the hardest thing - now that you have, the healing can start. take care P7