I know how you must be feeling. My fiance (supposed to be) is the same way. We went through some difficult times over the summer and he actually moved out. When we got back together in September, he has not been interested in sex at all. We've only had sex twice since then. He says he just isn't in the mood and is tired from work. I do know he works long hours but on the other hand, he works four days and is off three, so.......He has told me that sex shouldn't be the biggest part of a relationship.......he will hold me at night sometimes but he has gone so far as to push me away if I kiss him on the neck or reject me completely if I bring up the subject of sex. He says he gave me everything of him before and after we broke up, he found a void in his life and he doesn't know if it will ever disappear....He says he loves me, but it doesn't feel like it much. I personally don't think anything I might try with him would improve things. I have analyzed it to death....tried different approaches, tried understanding he was hurt too when we broke up,,,,tried understanding how this might be going on, but i've also wondered if there is someone else. i just don't know the answer for you or me.