Well, blow me, I just walked straight into T and told her how I felt filled up the wkend with having shared photos of my kids with her...it felt the easiest thing to do....we talked a good deal about the fantasies...and I asked her developmently wise, how old am I? she said well your not just about that one deep wound, you have a very adult relationship outside with your husband...so there it is, I am now officialliy a grown up and not just a 3yr old ......