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Our T is substantially older then we are...she is 64 and our body is 39. Her children are our age! We are very comfortable with this...I'm sure it has to do with "mother issues", but in 6 years of therapy, there haven't been any real transference issues there. We are, and have always been, really clear tht T s not "mom" is what I mean. However, it is also clear that we tend to look for a "mom" figure. A neighbor of ours is 66 and we have become quite close to her. We carpool to school with her because she works on campus, and get a lot of "mom type" nurturing from her. Examples are her asking how classes are going, celebrating with us when we do well on an exam or paper, listening to us vent about professors or whatever...she also puts our lunch in her office fridge and lets us leave things in her office that we don't want to carry around all day.
That was a bit of a left turn, so back to the topc...I don't think we would do well with a T that was younger than us, however, considering we have alters that actually come out and talk in t that are as young as 4 years...it would be pretty hard to have a T younger then that!
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