T is right. We are preoccupied with the trauma because we are unconsciously trying to work it all out so we can gain control over the situation and take our power back.
T had me do this after I was stuck in flashback mode and was obsessed with one particular issue. After I was done talking about it, she asked "How can we change the outcome? What would you do about it now if you could."
I rescued the little girl, then I kicked the crap out of the guy. It's not an absolute fix, but it is the beginning.
If I had to answer your post in one word I would say "TIME."
 
Last edited by Orange_Blossom; Nov 24, 2008 at 05:28 PM.
Reason: To add hugs for support.
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