That reminds me of when I first talked to my husband about splitting up. I told him I didn't want to stay together anymore, not even until the kids were out of school. Then he just ignored that for another year and a half until I took action. It's as if he forgot the conversation took place. I think the marriage was comfortable for him. He had multiple affairs but never saw a problem with that. He thought he could have his wife and his affairs too. Wife could take care of kids, look after home, bring home some money in paycheck, and contribute to retirement funds. And he could have a social life on the side. It all worked pretty well for him, so why get out? I think your H is in a bit of denial. This probably isn't the answer you want to see, but if you truly hope the divorce to go somewhat smoothly and to be able to reach agreement, I think it would be helpful to give your H a bit of space now. Don't take any more court actions right now. Give him some time. Once you get started down the "litigate every step" path, it is hard to get off, and you will end up paying your lawyer (and his) a ton of money.

Are you still living together? If so, have you discussed how you will separate?

It is actually good that both you and your H do not want to stay in the marriage. Some of the most difficult divorces are when one spouse really wants the relationship to continue and the other doesn't.

Don't give up on cooperation and agreement yet!