Thanks, Sunrise. We are actually separated. He's been living at his mom's house since he walked out and told me he wasn't coming back - after I caught him still cheating, while he was telling me that he had stopped. He's not working, I've been paying off his credit card debt and for the car he drives, while his mom pays for his food and gas. He's basically living like a teenager and sees no problem with it. I think he's so deep into the denial and lies he doesn't even know it himself when he lies. It's just what comes out of his mouth. He's been telling all of these women that we were divorced for years. So he's used to the idea. I'm still feeling slammed with the fact that life as I expected it would be is completely gone. I appreciate your advice. But I think he's really sick, and in denial of that, too - so I'm not holding my breath that he'll eventually cooperate. Take care of yourself! A.