I confronted my traumas head on. I re-lived every one of them detail by detail, and I made myself admit that it wasn't my fault. And I kept doing it until I had CONVINCED myself that it wasn't my fault and that there was nothing I could have done differently, and that I did the right thing.
That's how I got my power back. It took me seven years of denying it and screwing up my life before I realized that I had to.

One still holds power over me (there are many different abusers), and that's because I still have that bed and I sleep in it every night, and I also have contact with the abuser because he has something that I need. I want to scream at him "RAPIST!!!!" and make him admit that he did rape me, and I'd like to burn the bed and get a new one - but I can't afford it.

But I took the power away from four abusers, and that's good enough for now. x.x

I wish you the best of luck, I know how hard and painful it is.