Hi...sorry that you're and your girl friend are going through such a stressful time. i can't speak as to what you should do about the relationship, but i can speak to what i'd like to see you do. get help for yourself. get a therapist...and work on your responses to the GF...the only person you can change is yourself. work to get an understanding of mental illness and how you can best deal with the problems that have arisen. post at Psych Central as much as you want to. tons of great people here!!! pat