it happened.. something in my brain went "click" and it is done... sooooo done.

about a month ago he started yelling at me on the phone... and i suddenly realized that this was what i needed to get away from two years ago. i felt the same fear, the same despair, the same desperation. CLICK. It had to just freakin' stop... anything was better than this.

so i decided i needed to make a move... that was when i posted about putting something big in motion. i filed a document that took something away from him but also released me from a major responsibility to him. i was scared but it was what it was... once started it couldn't be stopped. i dealt with it all a lot better than i thought i would.

since then... omg.. he is surreal... no one would ever believe me if i wrote a book.. and i might. He has several dx's and he has come up with some pretty weird stuff. He called me for advice on how to help his NEW GIRLFRIEND's bpd... unbelievable. He has been seeing her for months now.. and this is how i found out. i don't care.. she can have him.. but to call and ask ME for advice for her?? i told him i couldn't believe the kahunas he has.

but CLICK...

i've been seeking legal advice as fast as possible.. but i dont' know the law well enough to be sure of how to do this. Since there aren't any kids, shared assetts, property.. and we have been living apart... i don't think there are any serious grounds for him to contest my petition. When a spouse isn't co-operative it is apparently a longer more expensive process... but i would think that applies to cases with something to contest.. even if he tries to drag it out, i don't see what he could present to do so. Any ideas?