Have you tried Dialectical Behavioral Therapy? It is effective with both borderline & bipolar. I'm having great results with it (& medication). You also can learn a lot through the Peer-to-Peer class offered free of charge through NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) & maybe look for a support group offered by DBSA (Depression & Bipolar Support Alliance).

My mother also had bipolar disorder & the treatments & medications available today are so much better. There is hope for a better quality of life.--Suzy