Hubby decided that he wanted to have sexual fantasies. Ok, sure. Was good with that. Then he decided we should "swing". Not good with that. never had "casual" sex, didn't wanna. Then I met a friend on a sexual forum and we became friends, then cyber lovers, then hubby let me go off for a weekend with him. 1/2 my age, wonderful person. Boy fell for me, I care about him 2, but I can deal. Bottom line is hubby has not had his "turn" with a girl, expects me to make it happen, and join in. Not cool for me, as far as joining in. We have been fighting for a month, sleeping apart, and now I have no desire for him. He is acting, dressing, and pretending to be 1/2 his age, going out all the time. I want him to have his turn because he will never let me forget that he didn't, and I did. Conjoint therapist told us today that she will not see us for counseling until he abandons his "turn" and cuts his losses. Did much damage to me.

Thoughts, experiences. I will give him his "turn" just so I dont have to hear about it the rest of my life. He thinks the therapist "doesnt understand". Hellllp! I do not get offended at opinions, so lay them on me!

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