I agree with the poster to take things slowly. do tell your partner your fears and what happened at some point. make sure he is understanding and is willing to take time but yes I think really you can have a really good intimate relationship at some point. just please know that not all men are like the ones in the past. the past is in the past and nothing you or anyone can do will change that but you can move past it. it does take alot of work but it can happen. good luck hon.