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Nov 26, 2008, 09:17 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2008
Posts: 13
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Hey there. I have only been dated raped--not pleasant, but not fun. I've been assaulted too and that would have been a gang rape, but I screamed loudly and long. The guys were scared off. So, I do not have to cope with memories of terrible violence as you experienced.
For me, "the best way out was through." In other words, I dealt with the experiences head-on with a counselor. Have had two great counselors in the past. One was a rape crisis counselor at the YWCA. It's not pleasant. It's not pleasant going to the dentist either. I wanted to do this. In the assault by strangers my head was really screwed up and I knew I had to go. Leaving the session was the most difficult part. Having to go back to everyday life when I'd been dealing with this trauma that brings up so much emotion. It's been years. I still get triggered. I think that always will be with me.
If you can't go, then maybe "Time heals all wounds." There are so many rape survivors. Maybe group therapy? Hang in there. I think if you accept that you are forever changed, when you are triggered, "oh, it's that again. It'll pass." Like a storm. It is never all the way gone. Sorry.
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