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Nov 27, 2008, 12:34 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: east of the sun, west of the moon
Posts: 2,259
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shadow,
someone once told me "a bad mom is better than no mom." that is not talking about an abusive mom, but a mom with struggles. i said, "sorry" an awful lot when my children were growing up and i hated that. i wanted soooo much to be a better mom than the one i had.
bottom line - i WAS a better mom than i had growing up. i did try to be good to them and to apologise when i failed and i kept going to counseling and looking for ways to get better.
just don't give up shadow. be kind to yourself because self-cruelty never made anyone better. tears are there to give relief from overwhelming emotions - so it's good you CAN cry, it took me a long time to get my tears back and i still can't always access them.
shadow, stop being mean to yourself, please!!!!! give yourself some credit for trying, for effort, for courage, for persistence, for kindness to others and probably a bunch of good things you are overlooking in yourself. i care and you are worth as much as any one of us! hugs, 
leslie and her pixies
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