I wonder if we're trying to make ourselfs into something that we just arent? I dont mean that we're not attractive, but what is "attractive"? we are who we just the way we are, and to someone we may be "attractive" whilst to someone else we are not...what we need to do is look in the mirror at the person we REALLY are and say, "Hello there, I like you..."..it takes yrs to get this point and I'm not sure off your age, but with age I've found I have come to "know" myself and do not rely on what I or others "see"...