This started as his fantasy, and I was not interested. He is pissed because he has not had his turn, and he needs counseling himself for other issues. For example, I have been very weepy and depressed for weeks. I made a comment on a man's long hair tonight, and hubby was a little drunk, and started admonishing me for making fun of his hair, which I do not do. Now he is pissed, and when we got home I thanked him for taking me out, and when he came in the living room he started" Ya know, you are the cause of all my self-esteem problems". I cannot take care of this person anymore. He has issues and will not admit them. The counselor saw me in a state of despair and will not see us until hubby commits to working on the marriage rather than having his "turn". I really hurt tonight. I tried to have fun, and I even decided that I would try to sleep with him tonight, but he ruined it. I hate my life. I do!!!!