i would like to know also!i wonder if we see ourselves right.i look in the mirror sometimes and see something then ill look again and see something else......?like one time its good then next its horrible.dont know if its a delusion or the real thing im seeing?its very strange.and i also have this voice that says ,your ugly,so that doesnt help.i would love to straighten out this mess also.i had the same problems w/boyfriends,now im alone and dont want one,due to all that stress,of trying to be beautiful for him.when i needed to be beautiful for me,i came to this,the men never helped that issue ,they made it harder by looking at other females and saying comments to make me doubt myself more,so i said they are not worth the added stress in my life,until i meet the perfect match.which to me is going to be tough,so if i have a one night stand at least they wont mentally make me take steps back,cause they will be there for one thing you know?its cold to some,but i deal w/ my things best i know how.so good luck.i feel a man is for sperm doning,while other women and my dog,my cat,or my bird is for companionship.men would rather hang out w/their buddies,then us anyways! when more women see what im saying maybe theyll see what im meaning.good luck and ill keep in touc h ok?