i saw something here that i have to comment on. my oldest was addicted to heroin for 7 years. i took her to the ranch and it took 2-1/2 years, but she got clean. she was dying when i took her there. we were together 24/7 and we shared alot...lately she has started saying things that she knows triggers intense pain to me and then she says it's my fault that it bothers me. that really hurts me. i don't know how to deal with it. i have so much on my plate right now and she's adding to it...any suggestions?