Monty,

The choice is ultimately yours but based on your post you've outlined a stinky track record for this biological father and *I* would be very reluctant to give him another chance. That's me basing my choice on what I would need to do for my safety and healing.

Your husband sounds like he is supportive of you in that his upset reaction is because he pains to see you hurt by your father.

Your call but my vote is: nope! not at this time.