WEll after learning of my wife still "hanging out" with new guys and guys taht i dont know while i am here in Iraq (after she cheated on me earlier this year), I have been talking to her to try to get more closure. She apparantly wanted children right when we were married. She told me this soon after we settled into our first home, but the problem was that when we were engaged, i told her i wanted a wife that either was going to college, or had graduated college so she and i could start a family and could provide everything for our kids that my parents couldnt give to me. She said she was going to start college once we were married....and well she didnt. It took her two years to start college and i got it out of her that she wanted to have kids and then start college, and she was afraid to tell me bc she thought i was not going to marry her then. But who knows anymore? Her dishonesty started a long time ago and if she would've told me her true feelings, perhaps we would not be getting divorced? I think this was the seed that caused the friction in the marriage and her constantly getting on me about having a kid caused me alot of stress and become more distant from her and in turn, she became distant from me. But when she became distant from me, she went to ex bfs for support and affairs happened. What to do now?