Whenever a marriage is begun in some kind of deception, it has a huge hurdle for both to overcome down the road. It can very easily bring the marriage to an end

If there is no communication of truth, then the relationship is based solely on an untruth which of course is not a basis for a good and lasting relationship.

I'm not saying that your wife was being deceptive with intent to harm you, but certainly it was for her benefit without thought to trust and respect. If the both of you cannot get onto the same page respectively working towards commitment and truth, then do you think any efforts outside of that will be worth your time? If you are willing to forgive her transgressions, do you truly feel she will step up and be honest? What is your gut telling you? Listen to it over your heart. Do you wish to live your life continually finding out about her untruths? Unless she admits to her mistakes and works to change herself, then do you think it will just happen and everything will be fine?

I know these are some hard questions to ask yourself and her. No one wants to admit that their relationship is unworkable. Sometimes though we must protect ourselves, cut our losses and move on.....learning from the experience. And granted...sometimes we hang on tight and work like there is no tomorrow to make the situation work. Only you can decide where to go from here.

I'm sorry you are in this position. I do hope you find a workable solution for yourself and that you can find peace in whatever you decide to do.

Take good care,


sabby