((((((((((((((((((((((((Mama Drama))))))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry that this is happening.

I glanced through some responses, but have not read through them all so forgive me if I am missing something.

I just want to share a bit about my family, if I may.

I have a son, who struggled with a lot of things. While I tried to be a good mom, I was not always what he needed. Later I found out that some abuse stuff had happened that I was not even aware of. He went through a lot of anger for a while and a lot of it was directed at me. He was angry that I did not protect him (even though I didn't know), he was angry that I was not what he needed sometimes, he was angry that he was born, he was angry about everything - it was pretty bad.

I felt like I was a terrible mom, still do at times. While I loved my children more than life itself, my own mental illness and people around me who were not safe combined to make life hell for my children at times. While I never abused my children in the traditional sense, there were times that I just wasn't capable of being what they needed. I wasn't able to protect them because I wasn't aware enough. I protected them from stupid things like bad movies and what I thought was unsafe things. But I didn't protect them from some people that I should have at least had some inkling about but didn't, from people of authority, etc. I just didn't have the awareness.

In time, and through a lot of hell, my son came to terms with things and realized that his anger was not directed at the right person. Through a lot of stuff, he is learning who he was angry at and is learning coping skills to be able to file away things in the right place. It did take a long time for him to get to that point to be able to start working out his stuff. We are able to talk about things now and he knows I did the best I could and I know it oftentimes wasn't great.

Today, we have an amazing relationship. For me and son, it took time, consistency and unconditional love. As we both became more aware of things, we were able to work through them. The one thing my son said was that he never doubted I loved him, even when things were at its worst. He said he knew I was safe and because of that, it allowed him to express everything he needed to, knowing I wouldn't reject him.

I think it is possible for you and your daughter to gain awareness and healing too. Sometimes we have to put ourselves in our children's shoes and just observe. I completely understand why son was so angry at me. While his anger was at times misplaced, it was still understandable. We've both grown a lot in the last few years.

I wish the same for you Mama Drama. Are you currently in therapy? My advice would be that if you are not, to get into therapy and if you are, keep working. Hopefully daughter will do the same. In the meantime, just be there if she calls or reaches out and show her unconditional love and support, no matter what she says or does. As parents, it's one of the best things we can do, in my opinion.

Hang in there. It can get better.