Thanks everyone, KD, Place, Eva.

Yes, HH offers counseling for free. You can attend groups and they also offer individual (and I'm assuming family) sessions - whatever you're most comfortable with.

My kids have commented that I need to socialize and make friends, so I'm going to use this as an opportunity to get us out to meet some new people, rather than telling them this is a place to talk about our f'ed up home lives. If I tell them the main reason HH exists, they might balk at going. I want them to feel comfortable there, not like we're going to walk in there and they're going to immediately start talking about our problems.

POSSIBLE TRIGGER - my daughter brought up that she can't believe the court wouldn't make my ex adhere to the "no physical punishment" rule I requested. She then said that he tried to convince her a few days after he hit her that what happened was she was putting on her backpack and bumped into the table and THAT'S how she got the bruise on her back. OK, her calling me up crying and hyperventilating, and then him telling me she deserved it and admitted he hit her just VANISHED from his mind or what? And we're the ones who are delusional? :bang_head: