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Old Dec 01, 2008, 03:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Sannah View Post
Maybe she is just angry and not angry with you and she just wants you to hear and acknowledge it. You are her mother. Do angry people trigger you? Is this why you can't hear her out?
Good question, Sannah. My ex spared no expense or energy in making me feel worthless, stupid and ugly. I was not allowed an opinion or pride in anything I did. So when my daughter invalidated my experience and parenting, it very well could of been "him" I heard. So yes, she may have pushed that button. And in many ways I do have a hard time processing other people's anger, I sometimes (but not always) will take it personally. I've made a lot of progress regarding that though, I stop and tell myself that it's not always about "me". I have to catch myself falling into old patterns and make a concious decision to think logically instead of reacting emotionally.

She is calling me tonight and we will talk. I wish we could discuss it in person but she lives too far away for that. Right now I'm trying to mentally prepare myself for whatever may happen.