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Dec 01, 2008, 04:46 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2008
Posts: 9
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Hey,
I can understand why you would be upset that your daughter is acting so strangely. It has to hurt. I know that I struggle with a lot of anger towards my mom and dad and my father is also dead. I try really hard not to blame my mom for everything but it's not easy, i'm 21 and in college as well so i can kind of see where your daughter is coming from. At the same time she needs to be more adult and talk to you as a grown up about whats going on. To just throw all this anger and blame at you w/out giving u any reason is childish. There is nothing that can be done to change the past and she needs to come to terms with what happend but it's not fair to blame u for everything, even if her memories of what happend are so different from yours. It is hard to blame the dead but it's not fair to throw double the anger at the surviving parent! I think that until she comes to a point were she is able to accept the fact that you can't change what happend and be at the point were she wants to move on and have a relationship with you there's nothing you can do. But I think that you also need to keep your anger in check and just try to continue to let her know that when she is done w/all this anger you will be there for her. In the end I think that the strong bond you shared before will prevail, I think she just needs time to work through all the emotions she has, she is going through a lot of change right now.
My thoughts are w/you, I hope it all works out!!
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