jme/jmo

it took me many years to acknowledge/not keep the secrets let alone accept what had happened to me. tackling the shame and fear was terribly hard...as it is for all of us.
so it was a big step for me to come that far...denial only kept me from getting the help I needed in order to have any peace.

the affects of years of ongoing abuse had to be taken one at a time, although they were obviously a tangled mess. there were many steps I had to take before I understood that I was healing...healing, not healed. I do not believe we are healed from these things. We make progress as we go along...rather like the saying "happiness is a journey not a destination"
accepting and letting go are part of that journey, forgiveness is another part for many people. if this is what another person feels comfortable doing/saying, so be it. it does not have to be an expected goal for me.
each of us has to explore what is best for us. this should be respected, I believe.
there is no one-size-fits-all.

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