Understanding the nature of PTSD requires that you NOT take such "responsibility" to heart as many here suggest.

While it is NOT in any way psychosis, would you have the same sentiment from someone who is, say, psychotic? Is it because you understand psychosis as something that the person just does not have any control over from time to time???

PTSD can cause responses that are not controlled. When someone with PTSD verbally strikes out because of a trigger, they don't do it because they thought about it, they don't do it because they want to attack.. etc it is automatic... it happens BEFORE thought. It isn't a choice.

Yes, part of the deep relearning required for improvement with PTSD is trying to retrain the brain to THINK before acting.

If someone is "hurt" in the general sense, by someone with PTSD being triggered, the responsibility imo lies with the disorder. If someone allows another, at any time, to make them feel like a victim, then it is the victim's viewpoint that needs to be changed, the "victim" needs therapy to counter their vulnerability. Anyone who becomes such a "victim" needs help in finding out the facts... in remembering what truth is... (That they are a worthwhile human being, that nothing someone else SAYS actually physically hurts another etc.)

Please take this on the deeper level it is. I know it is easier to say hey, if you hurt someone you are at fault. I'm trying to help others realize, first, there might not be ANY "fault" at all. Second, it's never ONLY one person's views at play in any relationship.