I really appreciated your response and insight into enabling vs. supporting. I guess it is an opening for me, too. I am trying to understand some things about my son. I see him struggling on day to day things that most people can do. I feel guilty when I see him struggling, because I think I should have done something sooner. When I apologize for being such a busy and oftentimes angry single mom he gets the subtle message that I am trying to avoid saying, that something just isn't quite right with him. It is a terrible cycle of guilt and shame. I go back and forth with just trying to be supportive and accepting him just where he is and staying in denial that something might actually be "wrong" with him. Do I enable him by ignoring those sick red flags in the pit of my stomach, or is that sick feeling grief and then I move into the acceptance and support stages? I am confused. But....this is the first time that I have actually explored these issues re: Nate.