YES!! Though somewhat different, but definitely yes! Being neglected by my father and abused by my brother, I started believing that THAT was all I was worthy of ever having. That I wasn't worthy of ever being in a healthy relationship, so I'd seek out the "bad seeds" and ignore the good guys. And I stayed. "I can only blame myself for this, this is all I'm ever allowed to have" etc. I too have spent WAY too many years recovering from bad relationships, some of them are my fault though..
If my boyfriend didn't use or abuse me, I'd instigate it myself - and make him dislike me and hurt me. I've gotten a lot better since I realized what I was doing and why I was doing it, so there is hope!
You're not alone in this

Edit: Radio flyer, abuse takes many different forms. Being neglected is one form, you don't have to be hit or sexually abused for it to be considered abuse. What you're saying is classical survivor-mentality. It's my fault, it's always my fault, I deserve this yadayada. Just so you know: NO, YOU DO NOT - and NO, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT! Capitalized for emphasis, it's incredibly hard to accept it - I still struggle with it, I still want to take the blame for it. It could be dangerous to dig into the past, but it might hold some answers.

Does anyone else feel "at home" with being in abusive relationships? I mean in the way that it's almost comfortable; it's what you know, so it's familiar. Being in a healthy relationship is scary. Anyone?