Thank you to all of you for replying. I appreciate your time, your knowlegde, your understanding and your support.

What brought me to this " forgiveness thing " is that my husband asked me to give something to someone who has hurt me very deeply ( My husband knows what has happened) and I said no that I would not give this person anything. I know I took a chance in saying no to my husband because he gets angry very easilly but I also know myself, I don't give if it's not from my heart. I will not pretend that I have forgiven someone if I didn't.

I do accept what has happened between me and this person. I do accept that it was out of my control. I do accept that I was not to blame in any way. I do accept the hurt that is not healed. But, I will not forget or forgive.

For myself I think there is situations that I can give my forgiveness to some people but there is also situations where I just can't. The hurt is too profond.

I also think that the word " forgiveness " can have a different meaning to different people and that's ok. To each our meaning and to each our respect.

Thank you so much.