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Originally Posted by brephi
I believe you are young and have been taken advantage of. There is nothing to be ashamed of. I was in a similar situation when I was much younger. I am 56 years old now. You are experiencing life. As you become older and have more life experiences you will become a better judge of character. This young man was probably your first and he knew that. I think you should have a one on one conversation with him to determine where you stand with him. To me it sounds like he has you just where he wants you -- at his beck and call. That is not good. You deserve bettter.
DON'T LET THIS RELATIONSHIP PUT YOU IN A POSITION WHERE YOU ARE DEPRESSED. YOU BETTER BELIEVE HE IS NOT DEPRESSED BECAUSE HE IS GETTING WHAT HE WANTS.
If you decide to continue your relationship with him, please protect yourself from sexual diseases. I CANNOT STRESS THE IMPORANCE OF PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES AND UNWANTED PREGNANCIES.  |
Hi brephi
thank you for your kind response. it means a lot. Yes he was my first. He knew that. I am 23, but never had a boyfriend. I have always been very shy/reserved and when we met i felt so comfortable with him it was a strange feeling. That obvously played a part.
I do in a way, believe he talked me into it (sex). I dont have any of the 'loosing virginity' issues 'saving it' or whatever, that never bothered me. I was ready in that regard, but the way he went about it, i feel used.
It was a combination of that, him being the first guy to show any interest in me, things he said - which turns out wern't true. He said "i sometimes say things i dont mean". That is going to make me worry with other guys - are they just feeding me a line? The things he said i went by. what other choice did i have?
I may continue to be friends but there will be no more sex. It complicates and confuse things. I can't see a point in starting a relationship that way with him now - espically if he's planning to go overseas.
I'll leave the ball in his court to catch up - thats if we do. he may never contact me again. but im not going to do the chasing. i think im just gonna 'drift off the radar' for a bit!
I know we wern't together long , we wern't really 'together' at all anyways and i feel stupid for this drama as its been just over a month (alot of contact b4) but i wish he'd put himself in my shoes. You talk constantly to a girl, in contact ALL THE TIME, then get sexual, and then few weeks later, you disapear for days, no contact, making plans with me and then cancel them. What am i suposed to feel? Obvsiouly he wasn't thinking, BUT he has been in relationships before. HE SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER. I kinda hate him for that.
but i am worried its sending me into depression. . . . . . . . . id say ive lost 4kg in like 2 weeks. I feel sick to my stomach, like im going to be sick - but its not the type of feeling you get from lack of food. I found my self always waiting around for him. Doing stuff for him. Now, i just dont know what to do. I constantly feel like im gonna be sick.
thank you once again for your help!!! very appreciated.