Gosh Donsky, that sounds like a daunting situation to be in. I really feel for you and how awkward you must be feeling. I can only offer you my own personal experience and hope that it holds some kind of good for you.

I had a rather long, climactic breakdown before everyone at work and otherwise. No one really know what was going on, but ultimately my boss and one of my co-workers who had become a very good friend of mine, and still is, did an intervention on me. One morning I got to work and was immediately called into the boss' office where he and my friend layed out all that I had done, said, behaved like, missed, screwed up, not shown for and on and on and on...Fortunately I knew too how bad off I was and accepted their help and support. I took a leave of absence to get serious help. My boss took it upon himself to explain to everyone that I was experiencing serious personal turmoil and that I would be out for a little while, but that I would soon be back and that he would appreciate it if everyone was supportive of me. I never had to explain anything to anyone. No one asked and I only told very little to very few. My blessing was that I had a boss who truly cared and wanted nothing but the best for me. Do you have an understanding boss or supervisor or someone you can go to, to do the same for you? You can even tell that person exactly what you want them to say. It's just a suggestion and I wish you well. Keep us posted please, I would very much like to know how things turn out. TgrsPurr.