HI Justgiving and everyone else on this thread ,

I think before I can forgive my abuser/attacker I will have to find room in my heart to forgive myself - while there is till blame and shame I dont think there is room for forgiveness but I am happy for anyone who has found it P7

p.s., and no I dont think it makes you a bad person if you cant forgive - i think you need to heal yourself before you can look to others - although its all part of the whole healing process. Which like everyone else here I truly wish was shorter! take care P7