Hi again Angeleyes:
Your situation sounds stressful - that's a lot to handle for any parent, let alone being a single mom. Hopefully you'll gain some understanding of yourself and your son here. It's been really helpful for me in my situation (my boyfriend is depressed and struggles with day-to-day stuff). Welcome.

How old is your son? What are some examples of how your son is struggling? Is he your only child?

I think you're answering your own question about the sick red flags in the pit of your stomach -- I think that as a parent, if you can feel red flags in your stomach, then you probably do have some valid reasons to be concerned. But ignoring red flags is not necessarily the same as enabling -- but give us some examples and maybe we can figure some stuff out together, ok?

You are obviously a devoted and caring parent, even it's hard for you to face that he might have problems. It's coming across to me very clear from your short 1-paragraph post. Don't be too hard on yourself - we'll figure it out. Maybe not completely, but hopefully a few things that can make it easier, ok?

Your friend,
LMo

We are ALL going to be a-ok!