rhapsody, thank you for your detailed reply! it gives me a lot to think about and i will remember this when my partner and i are trying to acheive orgasm.

Brian, I completely agree that sex shouldnt be all about orgasming either.Im trying to help my partner take his time, learn to enjoy it instead of feeling rushed toward orgasm.i think this is half his issue. And im sorry to hear about the porn issue. Its not uncommon, but im sure with some support you and your wife can conquer it