do we have to forgive the other person? or can we just forgive ourselves.
i hope so, because there is much in this world i htink i am incapable to forgive. i can understand it, and more or less acept it, e.g. acepting psychopaths exist, but will i ever forgive them? should i? i dont want to be apatehic to evils of the world. like most others here, i struggle with the forgiveness concept too and what it actually means.
in a way.. i feel there can be some value in not forgiving. obviously to ruminate and not move on.. will not lead to good, but if you can incoroprate greater understanding into your concept of the world, wouldn't that make you more realistic, and possibly resilient and aware of negative forces, and through time empowerment to not succumb to them? personally i think before trauma, i may have had optimism that didnt always reflect reality. rendering me a prime target for being destroyed by a psychopath. 1 1/2yrs later i am still recovering, and still suffer stress, night terrors, am overly vigilant etc, but i feel once i fully heal and incorporate my greater understanding of the world, and come to peace with the worlds badness (not approve it, but accept what is, is, and feel i can protect myself and not be scared of it), i will be stronger and better off. im not sure if i need to forgive the person who caused my trauma, and im not even sure that would be healthy for me either.
maybe i need more clarification on forgiveness. could anyone tell me if this constitutes forgiveness? - understanding he is a pschopath, likely has been forever and can't change, and thus not blaming him, but rather pitying and hating him for the pain he has and will cause and what he feels and doesnt feel himself.