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Originally Posted by be_be
Thank you Sabby & youOme,
There is obviouslly that physical attraction, it was there from the start. And the affection is SO NICE. I miss that. Is it possible to do just that? Like hugs, cuddling, etc...without sex?
In my decade of experience (yes just a decade!) guys usually do not want to only cuddle.... not all though 
Good luck!! |
Haha! Thanks! Yeah im sure some guys dont! This guy did mention that he likes affection, cuddling..(not always leading somewhere lol).it could be just a line or what not, but i'll see how i go!!
But i have have wondered after reading responses from people, if for me it was more of a physical thing....? i was definatly attracted to him and obvoiouslly he was to me. I was ready for the sex stuff ...just kinda figured it would lead eventually to a relationship. Dont say i was stupid to believe that or stupid assume it, i know i was. And i wont make that mistake again. I need to learn to say no. I have trouble saying no (to people i know). I let people walk over me too much. I am a very shy/reserved, not confident, definatly not an outgoing person in any kind of way. Im not using it as an excuse.
I now know this - communication is EVERYTHING. I didn't communicate to him. And he didn't communicate to me.
New realisation: I was drawn to him too much, as i felt i was overcrowded by another guy.
I guess also, there was a guy who was interested in me around the same time to him but there was no spark for me there. We've become friends. I was a bit overwhelmed by him, i had constant sms/emails, wanted to speak with me ALL the time on the phone, see me all the time, questions on where i went, which friends i saw, what their names were, he wanted detailed stories on what i did on the weekends day by day. - - - this was after like 2 weeks! And had only seen each other once.
I felt like i was getting intergrated!! He's a great guy, but found it too much. Maybe in some way,
i found myself being more drawn to the guy that this post is about. He never did any of that. It always felt so easy...things flowed.. it was all so cool. lol. He made me laugh so much. and of course found him adorable. ....he must have felt the same, coz you wouldn't be in that much contact (half or more was done by him) ......just a thought. im not laying blame anywhere.
think its gonna be friends... sex is fun sure, but can't see the point if it aint gonna go anywhere...... someone is gonna get hurt - and it'll probably be me.