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Old Dec 06, 2008, 08:29 AM
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Originally Posted by earthmama View Post
Of course you should post here

It helps me a lot to post things on these boards....it helps me to get things out of my head, think them through, look at them, get other's opinions, ideas, and experiences. It never ever helps us to be alone with our scary thoughts, whatever they are.

My mom had the kind of breast cancer that you are talking about...but also the type that's not "in situ". She ended up having a mastectomy because of the other one. She also had chemo. She's very healthy now and all of her follow up mammograms, etc. have been clear.

My dad died of colon cancer, and then my mom had breast cancer (both in their 50s) so I am very scared of cancer. I need a mammogram myself, I've never had one because I am younger than 40, or whatever the age is when they usually start. I understand the fear that the word "cancer" strikes in your heart!

Take your time, and post whenever and whatever you need to.


Thank you so much for your kind words, yes my mind is still in turmoil and l had rescheduled for monday but T cant be there so my option is go ahead without her or wiat til the following week so she can be with me. I am favouring the later and think thats what l will do.........scared yes very scared.....l know the reality and that it will hopefully turn out well trying to focus on that but very up and down at the moment so days good some not so good. The funeral the other day for my aunt was very difficult and had me imagining all sorts but thanks to a good friend from pc reality is back in place and im calmer although fear still lies deep within. Cancer to me is also very scary after loosing many close ones including the father of my first child at the age of only 26........it can and doeshave bad effects and lasting memories.......it is those that sit deep within l know its different but l cant make the fear dissolve no matter what l try
so thank you once again.........l think l will need to post as it gets nearer and l will try to stay focused on the thing in hand although l cant promise

Mandyxx

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