When someone does something horrible to a 9 year old (or any child...or any adult) it's common to blame the victim. To blame a 9 year old (or any age) victim is falling for the trap the public - and the perpetrator who did this - wants you to fall into... that the victim must have done something wrong to have this done. NOT SO.

The child in you has done nothing wrong but take the memories and pain for you. Now that you are realizing this, and maybe experiencing her pain and memories, it's time to show that you can heal together.

None of us can kick the passengers (whether they be personalities or luggage) off the bus. Whatever is on the bus, is there, good or bad... it's there. It's up to us to stay the driver of the bus..and steer it to where we need to go. ((((hugs))) I'm glad your T is teaching you how to drive your bus.