(((((((( Justgiving ))))))))

I'd like to give you a different view.

I was abused through out my childhood. I took it because this was what I supposedly deserved. I knew no different.

Years later as an adult, married with my own children I wanted to forgive my abusers. I felt guilty and bad, because this had been instilled in me. I nearly let a very abusive person into mine and my childrens life. He would have abused my children. Something stopped me from forgiving and letting this abuser into mine and my childrens life.

Years later I had much therapy, my T always said I should NEVER forgive this person (abuser) and certainly never let him into my life under any circumstances!

I really think it depends on what the abuser has done and if they are a danger to other people. I am not bitter for not forgiving, I am keeping my family SAFE!