I agree. Mine wasn't an abusive parent/child relationship in the form of physicaly abuse. Mine was seeing my father abuse my mother (and step-mother) constantly, mostly emotionally. I never saw any physical abuse but I heard them fighting and screaming all the time. So when I was unhappy in relationships and fought constantly I thought it was normal. Then I saw other couples who didn't do that and who resolved their fights and realized that it wasn't. I was also in a physically abusive relationship. Although it only lasted about 6 months I still have flashbacks and can't do things with my boyfriend that normal couples might do like playfight because I always feel like he's going to hit me.

I also agree that growing up in this environment kind of leads us to bring on unhealthy relationships. I know that I developed an extremely poor image of myself from my ex and seeing my parents like that. And Ive ruined healthy relationships because of it. Im just now seeing that relationships can be fun and don't have to be awful and constant fighting but it took my initiative to start convincing myself that I deserved better. And once I started to get that confidence, I was treated better by everyone around me.

So I guess my main idea is that we do need to realize that none of that was our faults and that we all deserve better than that. And once we realize that, it makes way for us to have truly healthy relationships.